adversary or advocate parent?

I read this blog post from Sally Clarkson regarding adversarial vs. advocate parenting and it has been weighing heavily upon my heart.   My normal response would be to focus on my negative parenting habits, beat myself up for a few days, fall into a depression, be a "better" parent for another few days, blow it with the kids again, and return to my old ways but feeling even more defeated as a parent.  But yesterday as I allowed my mind to review parts of this article, I asked the Lord, "If this is something you want me to improve, you need to show me the way.  I have no idea how to parent."  The last two weeks I have felt the Lord calling me to a different approach with my kids.  This may be the first step.